I don't fly a lot - a couple times a year - but when I do I like to peruse the bookstore at the airport. Traveling tends to put me in a different frame of mind, so it's a good way to throw a changeup into my reading list. A couple weeks ago this habit resulted in picking up a copy of You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. There was a time when I read self-help books 24/7, but it's been a while, and I felt like I needed a kick in the pants.
With the title and bright yellow cover I have to admit I felt a little self-conscious reading it, but I liked the author's voice. The part I found most interesting was when she discussed the power of our subconscious mind. She put it like this.
"Our conscious mind thinks it's in control, but it isn't. Our subconscious mind doesn't think about anything... but it IS in control".
She goes on to say that our subconscious mind develops its belief system in the first five years of our lives. Usually this belief system is dominated by our parents' fears and insecurities and whatever emotional trauma we experience. Then, for the rest of our lives we're walking around with this 5-year-old part of our brain setting the tone for everything we do and how we react. Scary, right?
The good news is that if we're mindful of this dynamic, we can slowly start to unpack our subconscious belief system. Understanding the emotions that are driving our behavior is the first step in changing it.