I recently got stood up for a date. As the minutes ticked by I thought back to the first time that had ever happened to me. I remember thinking, "WTF is going on? I'm on a date... but I'm not on a date". It was like getting punched in the face. I was confused, hurt, and angry. But time mellows us. On this occasion all I could feel was empathy for her. When the moment arrived she just got scared and didn't show up.
Woody Allen once said that 80% of life is just showing up. There are two parts to this. The first part is simply; All things are possible when you show up - Nothing is possible when you don't. But there is a second part that is more subtle...
"The willingness to show up changes us. It makes us a little braver each time."
- Brené Brown
I don't have a lot of talents, but one thing I've always been able to do is psyche myself up enough to show up... no matter how scared I was. Now, don't get me wrong. There have been some spectacular disasters! Only my best friend knows some of those stories. But I can rest easy at night knowing I've collected my 80%.